Supreme Court on Tuesday upheld its decision to acquit Asia Bibi, 47
Divorced Her over the Phone Because She ‘Came Home 10 Minutes Late’
Hindus Set Example, Lend Helping Hand In Poor Muslim Girl's Marriage
Women Embrace Family Planning Ahead Of Population Boom
Women 'Too Emotional' For Leadership and Have Enough Rights, Domestic Survey
First Woman Wheelchair Basketball Player
Police Arrest Racist Man Who Harassed Muslim Girls
Ask Red Crescent to Hire Female Paramedics
Woman Wins Her Battle for Literacy at the Age Of 75
‘Just Divorced’ Party: Egyptian Women Celebrate Their Freedom
Vice Patrols Launched In Qom To Further Crack Down On Women
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Bibi Is Free At Last: Supreme Court of Pakistan on Tuesday Dismissed A Review
Petition against Its October 2018 Verdict That Had Overturned Her Conviction
Aasia Bibi, the Christian woman who spent nearly a decade on death row for a
false blasphemy accusation, is free at last. The Supreme Court of Pakistan on
Tuesday dismissed a review petition against its October 2018 verdict that had
overturned the conviction of Aasia Bibi.
blasphemy-related offence carries mandatory death penalty under Pakistani law.
review petition was filed on November 1, 2018, by Qari Muhammad Salam, a cleric
who had fabricated the alleged blasphemy case against Bibi in 2009, requesting
the top court to reconsider its decision.
Tuesday, Chief Justice Asif Saeed Khosa heading the three-member bench of the
apex court said the review petition “is dismissed on merit.”
petitioner’s lawyer demanded that a larger bench comprising Islamic scholars be
constituted to hear the petition. However the chief justice rejected the plea
saying, “We are not hearing the case again, the lawyer was unable to point out
a single error in the judgment.”
rejection of the petition has removed the last legal hurdle in the years-long
fake blasphemy case and potentially paved the way for Bibi to leave the country
to join her family in exile in Canada.
security measures were taken a day ahead of the hearing with personnel of
paramilitary force deployed at all sensitive areas of the capital city,
including the residential complex of the Supreme Court judges.
apex court had cleared Bibi of all blasphemy charges in October last year and
ordered her immediate release from prison.
acquittal had sparked countrywide protests led by Khadim Hussain Rizvi, an
extremist leader of Tehreek-i-Labbaik Pakistan (TLP), an Islamist party. The
protests were called off after the religio-political party reached an agreement
with the government, the foremost conditions of which were to prevent Bibi from
leaving Pakistan ahead of the decision of review petition filed against the SC
a Christian farm labourer and mother of four, was sentenced to death for
blasphemy in 2010, after she had angered her fellow Muslim co-workers by
sipping water from a vessel she fetched for them in June 2009 in Ithan Wali
village of Sheikhupura division in Pakistan’s central Punjab province.
Prosecutors had alleged that two Muslim sisters, Mafia Bibi and Asma Bibi, accused
Bibi of insulting Prophet Muhammad during a row followed by their refusal to
drink water from the same cup.
was later beaten up at her home during which her accusers, alongside the
complainant Qari Salaam (who taught Asma and Mafia the Quran), claimed that she
had confessed to blasphemy. She was arrested following a police investigation.
In November 2010, she was convicted and sentenced to death by a trial court and
the decision of her conviction was upheld by the Lahore High Court four years
later. In July 2015, the Supreme Court admitted her appeal.
after her conviction by a trial court, prominent politicians, Punjab’s governor
Salman Taseer and federal minister for minorities Shahbaz Bhatti, were gunned
down for speaking out in her support.
Qadri, Taseer’s killer, was executed in 2016 but his death earned him a status
not less than a saint. His supporters built a large shrine dedicated to him on
the outskirts of Islamabad and later formed a political party, Tehreek-i-Labaik
Pakistan (TLP), which gathered around two million votes in last year’s general
woman in Uttar Pradesh’s Etah has alleged her husband gave her the triple Talaq
over the phone for not coming back home on time, weeks after the contentious
bill that makes the Muslim practice of instant divorce a penal offence was passed
in the Lok Sabha.
woman said she promised her husband that she will return home within 30
minutes, according to news agency ANI.
went to my mother’s house to see my ailing grandmother. My husband told me to
return within half an hour. I was late only by 10 minutes. He then called me on
my brother’s mobile number and uttered “Talaq” thrice. I was completely
shattered by his move,” she was quoted as saying by ANI.
woman also accused her in-laws of beating her as her family was not able to meet
their demands of dowry at the time of their wedding.
beat me at times when I am home. I also had an abortion because of their moves.
My family is very poor which is why they were unable to give anything to my
husband’s family,” she said, according to ANI.
woman has sought the government’s help in the matter. “Now, it is the
responsibility of the government to provide justice to me or else I will commit
suicide,” she said.
officer of Aliganj Ajay Bhadauriya said they will conduct a thorough
investigation into the matter and take the necessary steps to resolve it.
Muslim Women (Protection of Rights on Marriage) Bill, 2018, which was passed in
the Lok Sabha on December 27 during the Winter Session, criminalises the
practice and classifies triple Talaq as a cognisable and non-bailable offence,
with three years’ imprisonment and a fine. The bill is pending in the Rajya
At a time when inter-caste marriages have been creating tension between
communities, the Hindus living in a village in Bahgpat have set a unique
example by coming forward and lending a helping hand in the marriage of a
Muslim girl from a poor family.
to reports, the Hindus, who reside in large numbers in the Abdulpur village of
Baghpat, came to know about the poor condition of a Muslim family living in the
same village for years.
family was facing extreme difficulties in getting its 28-year-old daughter
Gulafshan getting married to a man called Ayyub who lives in Puja Colony of
Loni township in Ghaziabad.
girl's father Babu Khan, son of Jumma Khan, is missing for the past 28 years.
Babu Khan left his home in search of a job nearly 28 years ago but never came
back. Just two months back, the girl's marriage was fixed with Ayyub.
short of cash and with no help coming, the poor family was worried about the
girl's marriage. It is when Gangeshwar Sharma, from a respectable Brahmin
family, came forward to help them.
the entire village, especially the Hindu families, decided to help the needy
family in whatever ways they could.
some took upon them the responsibility to make necessary arrangements for the
marriage and welcoming the bridegroom's family, some others bought gifts for
the soon-to-be-married couple.
Brahmin couple agreed to do the 'kanyadan' of the Muslim girl during her
Maulvi Mohammed Hasim of the Masuri village of Hasanpur, who solemnised the
marriage, heaped praise on the Hindu families of the village for their
hospitality, the respect they showed towards the bridegroom's family and the
affection with which they treated the bride.
to the girl's brother Shakir, the wedding was attended by no less than 150
people and all 'nikah' rituals were performed as per the Islamic traditions.
Modupe Adegbite’s grandfather had 22 children, while her father had nine. At
the age of just 19, she has decided she wants no more than four.
do you have so many children if you cannot feed them?” she asked.
a question many young Nigerians will face over the coming decades in Africa’s
most populous country, where a booming population combined with poverty, record
unemployment and roiling ethnic conflicts have some fearing a demographic
population is expected to leap from 190 million today to 410 million by 2050 —
and to almost twice that number again by the end of the century — according to
the UN’s World Population Prospects.
would mean that in just 30 years, Nigeria will be the world’s third most
populous nation, behind only China and India.
young women like Adegbite, who was born in Bada, one of the poorest
neighborhoods in the economic capital Lagos, getting access to sex education
and birth control can be difficult.
Bada, which lacks electricity and paved roads, does have a family planning
center, which opened last year.
the pill and hormonal implants are freely available at the local 9ja Girls
center, run by the US-based non-profit organization Populations Services
of the girls here are sexually active at 15, sometimes 14 years old,” Naomi Ali
of the 9ja Girls center told AFP.
start very early, whatever their religion. So they quickly become pregnant and
they stop going to school.”
first teenagers and young women in the area were suspicious, but Ali said
hundreds now openly talk in the street about once taboo issues such as
sexuality and romantic relationships.
difficult, sometimes they believe that contraception will make them infertile,
or the parents categorically reject it,” she said.
women have an average of 5.53 children, according to the World Bank, but the
rate fluctuates greatly between major cities like Lagos and rural areas, where
it reaches up to eight children per woman.
Ngom, the UN Population Fund’s regional director for West Africa, said the
situation in northern Nigeria was “urgent.”
we do nothing, we are going to face major problems,” Ngom said.
the 20 million young Africans who enter the job market every year, only two to
three million find work.”
what feeds into conflicts and terrorism,” he added, referring to the Boko Haram
Islamist insurgency that emerged from northern Nigeria, an area which, along
with neighboring Niger, has the world’s highest fertility rates.
is fairly small compared to the world’s other highly populous nations — at
923,000 square kilometers it’s a 10th the size of the United States — and the
fight for space is already causing conflict.
the fertile center of the West African country, clashes between farmers and
herders over access to land and water have left several thousand dead last
to encourage families to have fewer children have struggled in a country
lacking a social safety net.
idea that having more children means elderly parents will more likely be taken
care of after retirement remains deeply rooted in Nigerian society.
some analysts say large population growth could be an opportunity for the
country, as foreign investors eye a rapidly expanding market.
Robertson, global chief economist at Renaissance Capital, said population
growth “should become a dividend for the next 20 years in Nigeria.”
said Nigeria’s priority should be to develop “a high level of adult literacy
with a steady supply of electricity, especially in large cities.”
is the best way for young people to get better paid jobs and sustain their
Vice President Yemi Osinbajo seemed to agree at an economic forum last year.
avoid the time-bomb scenario, we must act with urgency to build an economy that
can support that population, provide jobs and economic opportunity, education
and health care, hope and optimism,” he said.
men strongly oppose giving women more freedom — two in three think they have
too much already — and young men are even more reluctant than their elders,
according to a new survey released this week.
women aren't fully on board with the idea of parity, either.
one in three of the Afghan women surveyed think women already have a surfeit of
rights and a similar proportion say they are "too emotional" to be
male generational gap may be explained by younger men seeking rigid gender
roles as they struggle to find work and stability in a country ravaged by war
and poverty, according to gender equality group Promundo.
teachings against women's rights under the Taliban regime also played a role in
hardening views among younger men, said Gary Barker, founder of Promundo-US,
which works with men and boys to promote gender equality.
survey was organised by Promundo and UN Women, the United Nations equality
is pretty concerning," Mr Barker told Reuters.
survey comes amid peace talks between the United States and the Taliban — which
controls nearly half of Afghanistan — that may help end war after nearly two
decades of conflict.
is not an easy place to be a woman, with forced marriage, domestic violence and
high maternal mortality rates, particularly in rural areas, according to
1996 and 2001, under the Taliban government, women were banned from work, made
to wear a full-length burqa that covered their face and not allowed out without
a male relative.
rights have improved in recent years under the Western-backed Afghan
government, especially in cities such as the capital Kabul, where many women
work outside the home and more than a quarter of the parliament is female.
last available data from the Inter-Parliamentary Union in 2018 showed that
Afghanistan's parliament had more female representatives than Canada, Ireland,
the survey of 2,000 adults pointed to a gulf in attitudes between men and
two-thirds of men thought women in Afghanistan had too many rights and that
women were too emotional to become leaders, compared to less than a third of
while nearly three quarters of women said a married woman should have equal
rights with their partner to work outside the home, only 15 per cent of men
Barker said investment in girls' education and empowerment would "hit a
wall if we don't also worry about the hearts and minds of men".
report's authors called for action, including education programmes promoting
gender equality, work with progressive religious leaders and support for youth
campaigns on the issue.
physical and financial insecurity, and lack of education act as drivers of
harmful gender attitudes and practices in Afghanistan, and perpetuate the
cycles of violence against women in Afghanistan," said Najia Nasim,
executive director of Women for Afghan Women.
civil society group urged more work at a grassroots level to drive forward
Jan 28, 2019: Inshah Bashir, who hails from Budgam district’s area in Kashmir,
recalls herself as a sober and patient child. Now 24, Inshah fell from a height
of 40 feet in her own under-construction house in 2008 and lost the ability to
she accepted the challenge that is life. She was interested in basketball and
she qualified for the National Championship in Hyderabad, in 2017.
trains in a special training camp set up for specially-abled children and is
looking forward to participating in the Sports Visitor Program 2019 in the US.
catches up with her about her experiences at the national platform, avenues for
differently-abled women sportspersons and she got her self-confidence back.
was your basketball team formed?
there was no particular team for girls. I was the first among the girls to show
an interest in basketball. I played with the boys’ team and later at the
national level in 2017, I got selected in a team as “Rest of India.”
inspired you to take up basketball?
a rehabilitation center in the valley named Shafqat Rehabilitation Center, I
saw some people like me and even in worse condition than me playing basketball.
They suggested me to join them. At first, I felt I may not be able to do it,
but then I did, and also felt this game is interesting and convenient to play
on a wheelchair.
us about the accident that changed your life and how did you overcome those
was just 15, a 12th standard student, when I met with an accident. I fell in my
under construction home from a height of 40 feet and my life shattered
thereafter. In the beginning, it was tough. I suffered a spinal injury and
underwent surgery but it was not successful. Not being able to walk on my legs
and lack of medical care taught me the struggles of life. Wheelchair became my
took me a lot of courage to overcome that trauma. My family and friends
supported me to fight back and encouraged me to find my lost will power. It is
nine years of struggle which is paying off now as I got an invitation from the
US Consulate to participate in the Sports Visitor Program 2019. It will
definitely be a new height for me.
are the first female wheelchair basketball player from the Kashmir and recently
astonished everybody with your performance. When did you realize your passion
for the sport?
was always a sportsperson in me from childhood. I used to participate in games
like cricket, volleyball at the district level in school. Then at the
rehabilitation center after about eight years, I found out that wheelchair
basketball will be my future. I got my enthusiasm back, but this time in
wheelchair basketball, which I felt is interesting. I represent Jammu and
Kashmir, and try to make the sport popular in the valley so that people like me
are motivated to play the game.
was the inspiration behind the team?
was Jammu and Kashmir boys’ wheelchair basketball team. Their hard work
inspired us. I am not a captain yet, but in the future, I would like to become
one of my Women Wheelchair basketball team.
battling accident to making it to the national sporting event, balancing a
career, what drives you towards the sport? What does it mean to you?
spent eight years in my room. Every day I felt I was getting deeper into
depression. The silent sparks for sports got buried deep down due to that
tragic accident. Eventually, it drove me towards sports when I got a chance in
the rehabilitation center. For me, it is a life-changing move because it made
me busy which in turn built my mental peace and also my physique up to an
extent. It is my path which motivates me to prove my potential to the world.
of workouts, tell us about your fitness and exercise routine.
go to the gym on a daily basis and follow a regular schedule. I follow a specific
diet chart fixed by my coach. In addition, I practice my game every day.
are the biggest challenges that come in your way?
first challenge was to accept that I am wheelchair bound now. The second was to
reinvent myself after the accident. The third challenge was the lack of
infrastructure in our state as there are no accessible buildings, parks and
basketball courts, etc. And the fourth one is what every disabled person faces
in our country, lack of disabled-friendly environment.
lack of facilities from the state as well as central government.
J&K have an academy where players get training? How many girls are there?
unfortunately not. Seeing me getting featured in the media, many girls now are
embracing this game, but our state doesn’t help in building any such academy.
do you think India lacks in terms of appreciating all kinds of sports?
far as India is concerned, we do have good potential in terms of talent, but
the gap in infrastructure and coaching facilities are not properly addressed. I
am hopeful that after our visit from the USA the government will take
initiative regarding the same.
is your core passion and long-term vision?
core passion is to excel in this game. As far as my long-term vision is
concerned, I want to become a ray of hope for those who have accepted
disability as their destiny. I want to help bring out their hidden talents and
give their will power a boost.
you face any struggles for sponsors to continue with your passion?
I do face. I have no sponsors. Well, sometimes it becomes very challenging to
fulfil my basic necessity of day-to-day life.
has sports liberated women in India? Do women now seek to take up this
if they get the facilities from the government, more women will try to take up
sports as a profession. Sports is a new field for women, especially in the case
of India. Be it wrestling in Haryana, be it boxing or shooting, badminton or
women of India have channelized new energy through sports. This new energy has
generated a feeling of liberation.
would be your advice for aspiring girls?
advice to every aspirant girl is to never stop just because they think they are
going to be judged. If it is what you really want to do, do it from your heart,
and be an inspiration to others.
are the chances for specially-abled girls from Kashmir to take up the sport? Do
they get as much exposure and enthusiasm as they deserve?
are there but not for people like us. Sometimes we feel ignored by the
authorities, hence we have to struggle a lot. The government has not delivered
on the promised facilities, accessible stadiums, buildings, ramps for the
disabled. We definitely don’t get the desired exposure and enthusiasm.
the girls are properly trained and coached, they have a bright future in any
sports and will not only make the state proud but the country as well.
man believed to be in his 60s has been arrested in the British capital after he
hurled harsh racist abuses at a group of Muslim girls.
said on Tuesday they were investigating the hateful behavior of the man who was
spotted in a video on the internet harassing Muslim girls outside Central
Foundation Girls School, in Bow, east London on Friday.
video shows the man hurling some unprecedented abuses at the girls, saying they
should be made infertile and prevented from breeding.
follows the school children and calls them rats who should be sterilized like
prisoners of the Nazi Germany.
Metropolitan Police said it was aware of the footage and called on witnesses to
footage is believed to have been captured in Tower Hamlets and shows
schoolgirls, some of whom are wearing hijab head coverings,” a Met spokesperson
said, adding, “A male voice can be heard on the clip providing abusive and
Hamlets Mayor John Biggs and Councilor Asma Begum issued a joint statement
condemning the abusive conduct against Muslims girls.
condemn the use of this inflammatory rhetoric. Tower Hamlets is home to people
from all over the world and we are proud of our history which has been enriched
by migration,” said the pair in their statement, adding that they will continue
to monitor the situation.
crimes against Muslims have been on rise in the UK with many women suffering
abuses and harassment over their hijab.
women in cities like Manchester have been specifically targeted since a terror
attack in the city in May 2017 killed 22 people.
was a renewed surge of hate attacks against Muslim women last year when Boris
Johnson, a former foreign minister, wrote a controversial commentary in the
Daily Telegraph, comparing women wearing burqa to “letterboxes” and “bank
— Many doctors have urged the Saudi Red Crescent Authority to employ female
paramedics to work alongside their male counterparts.
to Al-Bilad Arabic newspaper, they said it was essential to follow up with
cases of injured women who are moved to hospitals.
the fact that Saudi women are working in different fields with efficacy, they
are definitely capable of making their way up in this field, which is a vital
sector where their services are necessary to save the lives of thousands of
women, the doctors said.
doctors agreed on the importance of involving Saudi women in this field.
a question from Al-Bilad, some of them said they did not know why the Saudi Red
Crescent Authority had failed to look into this matter.
paramedics sometimes find it difficult to handle injured females especially in
fires and traffic accidents, they said adding that it would be much easier for
their female counterparts to administer first aid to women victims at accident
scenes and move them to hospitals if needed.
doctors agreed that some paramedics hesitate to treat injured women in the
absence of male guardians, which they said is a huge mistake because the
situation may get critical in cases that require quick intervention to save
is why all women must be given first aid training and they should be given a
role in attending to women patients along with male paramedics.
women are capable of carrying out emergency work with men. They are only in
need of training, guidance, and a suitable working environment,» one doctor
Saudi female doctors and nurses were able to adapt with the conditions of
working at health centers in remote areas, he said.
them, being a female paramedic is nothing different and it is part of the
nursing job. It›s only a matter of time before we see female paramedics working
in Saudi Arabia. This is especially so in the backdrop of the great attention
Saudi women are getting and the ways they are being looked at now to benefit
from their expertise and devotion to work,» he added.
women have been working in the field of nursing for about 40 years. They did an
excellent job attending to many cases in the streets or shopping centers, helping
save lives and reduce complications,» said another doctor.
attempt to contact Yaseen Al-Shehry, spokesman for the Saudi Red Crescent
Authority, to know about the constraints in employing female paramedics in the
authority was unsuccessful.
deputy Muhammed Manna›a said the decision of employing female paramedics must
be taken by the higher authorities. «This subject has never been discussed with
the authority and the Shoura Council is the pertinent body to study the
matter,» he said.
— The bouquet of flowers and a certificate of appreciation from the Ministry of
Education are not enough to describe the achievement of Noura Jazi Al-Baqami, a
75-year-old Saudi woman who won her battle for literacy by completing the
second intermediate year after enrolling in an adult education school in the
holy city of Makkah.
school organized a party in honor of Al-Baqami to celebrate her success and
give hope to other elderly women who are reluctant to go for education at an
said this academic year would be engraved in her memory because she was able to
complete her second intermediate year amid many difficulties and ups and downs.
perseverance and strong determination I was able to complete my second year and
will proceed until I finish this stage,» she said.
appreciated the efforts of the Education Ministry to provide free of charge
education to young and old Saudis alike in government schools.
ministry is carrying the beacon of light for everyone who wants to walk down
the tunnel to compete their education,» Al-Baqami said.
Al-Ghamdi, assistant director general of the department of education who
presented Al-Baqami with her appreciation certificate and the bouquet of
flowers, said the ministry was determined to upgrade the educational level of
Saudi males and females to help them cope with global changes and to meet the
requirements of societal development.
asked women to be inspired by the experience of Noura Al-Baqami and not to shy
away from completing their education whatever their age.
is an old, but popular, Arabic saying that goes a little like this: “A shadow
of a man is better than a shadow of a wall.”
was commonly said to young women by older family members, who believed that
being married was the most important aspect of a woman’s life.
literally, it means that being a woman with a man, is better than being a woman
on her own in an empty house sitting by the wall.
in the day, Arab societies considered divorce as the worst-case scenario and a
terrible option for a couple.
idea that a man and woman should officially separate their lives was never
a divorced couple had a strong sense of taboo hanging over them. In both Islam
and Christianity, divorce is known as a concept hated by God. It is even
forbidden by most of the eastern churches as well. So if you are a Coptic
Christian in Egypt, you have an even more difficult time to file for a divorce.
today, the perception of divorce has slowly gone from extremely negative to
the cultural taboo of divorce has gone down, Arab countries are facing a
dramatic spike in divorce rates, and new rituals are being adopted.
to William Doherty, a marriage therapist and professor of family social science
at University of Minnesota, most divorces are initiated by women, because of
the changes in women’s expectations to what a “good life” is.
today generally expect an equal partner, who will carry the weight of marriage
with her; someone who will support her pursuit of a career as well as the
pursuit of motherhood.
in many cases, men become very dependent on the woman, and that was not the
intention going into the marriage.
the Arab world, a country with one of the highest divorce rates is Egypt: On
average, a divorce case is being recorded every 4 minutes in the country’s
2018 report issued by the Egyptian Central Agency for Public Mobilization and
Statistics shows divorce cases in the country rose to 18,600 in August, from
18,100 at the same month the year before.
is hard. It’s a lot of work.” Dalia, an Egyptian, told Gulf News. “As a woman
in the Middle East, you are usually the one who draws the short string. Unless
you end up with someone who actually will carry 50 per cent of the weight,
which is rarely the case, you have to adjust your expectations. People make it
seem so fun. It’s so much more than people know.”
statistics confirm the existence of more than 4 million divorced women, and
family courts face long daily queues of married women willing to make the
difficult decision of leaving their husbands.
signs of trouble?
37, a Egyptian (from Alexandria), got divorced recently. Talking to Gulf News,
she said her marriage lasted for 6 years. But it didn’t let her feel secure.
marriage was arranged. During my period of engagement, my ex-husband showed me
a totally different person than who he really is.” “After marriage, I saw he
was fully dependent on his father, doesn’t go to work, and just laid around the
house playing PlayStation. He was lazy.”
these made Yasmeen feel insecure, and she couldn’t stay in the relationship any
longer. She had a different lifestyle. “I had a job, I was active and social
and he was nowhere to be seen in the my circle.”
husband would not accompany her in outings with their son. “It was as if I had
the son on my own.”
said she understands why many Egyptian women are getting divorced, now more
than ever. From her conversations with friends and family, she figured out what
the problem is.
are strong women, we take the lead, and we marry men who are not being
responsible. Women’s rights have ruined our eco-system, we wanted equal rights,
but we only got extra burdens. No one taught our men to share the burdens of a
family equally,” she told Gulf News.
women work inside and outside the house, if you are the one who drops the
children to school, the men will still be at home sleeping.”
you finish work, you still have to pick the children up from school, do the
groceries, cook, clean, help them with their homework, and tend to the lazy man
who comes at the end of the day and expects superwomen to be looking fresh and
with a wide smile.”
of course, if you complain about the burdens of handling work and the
household, and request for him to step in and carry a bit of the weight with
you, he will call you a nagger and go find himself a girlfriend who is free and
can laugh and sing and dance all night with him.”
do marriages break down?
Monica de Sousa Mendes, a Dubai-based psychologist practising for 16 years,
explained reasons behind the high divorce rates.
marriage doesn’t just break, it erodes overtime,” she told Gulf News. “A couple
is a life system and like any other system both parties react to one another.
What normally precedes divorce has much to do with how a partner acts and how
the other partner reacts to it.”
my experience, I would say the main triggers for divorce in this region are
infidelities, getting married at a young age, lack of commitment or lack of
responsibility from one partner, leading to too much conflicts and arguing.
Also unrealistic expectations due to the cultural role of men and women.”
these days, there are more acute and prolonged life stressors, lack of social
support and a progressive perceived lack of concern, care or attention from
divorce rates are skyrocketing, women have recently started the trend of
celebrating divorce to savour their freedom.
them it is not perceived as a failed marriage; rather, it is now seen as a successful
exit from an unhappy marriage.
between the age of 29 and 36 see the highest divorce rates in this region,
according to Dr Mendes.
33, married for three years, decided to throw herself a party once her divorce
papers were signed.
invited all of her best friends over, had catering, cake, juices and music. It
was a happy occasion. Instead of a cake that said ‘Happy Birthday’ or ‘Happy
Anniversary’, this cake said ‘Just Divorced’ in bright pink icing.
parties are taking the shape of weddings from invitation cards, to hotel
ballrooms, fancy dress for the divorcee and even a 3D cake specially done for
Mauritania, divorce parties are old and part of the culture, where women would
throw a party at her home, three months after finalising the divorce.
would dress up, put henna and dance with her friends all night.
divorce parties have started in Japan with an event planner called Hiroki
Terai, who now only plans divorce parties or ceremonies, in a special “divorce
mansion” he found in Tokyo.
celebrities have embraced the trend.
singer Maysam Nahas, Egyptian actress Hana Sheeha and the Syrian Joumana Hadad
have celebrated their divorces by having big parties where many celebrities
Egypt, many people are still finding the idea of a divorce party weird and a
tad un-classy. Especially since divorce is still somewhat perceived as a
failure and a collapse of a relationship.
what exactly are these women celebrating?
think it’s great,” Hania, an Egyptian, 27, told Gulf News. “I'm so over the
whole ‘divorce is taboo’ idea. I'm not saying these parties will save these
women, but Egyptians and other Arabs need to accept that sometimes ending
things is better than staying in an unhealthy relationship, and these parties
normalise divorces. Even today, there’s this idea that a woman can't survive
without a man. You'd think that's in the past but it's really not. We still see
people think it’s an unnecessary display of a relationship status.
no. You don’t need to publicise to the world that you got divorced.” Souha, 28,
an Egyptian told Gulf News. “Honestly, just mourn the death of your marriage
and say thank you, next.”
another Egyptian, said: “I wouldn’t throw a party, but I would go on a girl’s
trip with my friends and do all the things I couldn’t do when I was married. I
would enjoy my freedom.”
is divorce a good solution?
Mendes said divorce is better than staying in a bad marriage. Moreover, she said,
divorce isn’t the worst thing that can happen to the kids: Enduring a horrible
home life is.
course, divorce should rarely be the first choice because, generally, the only
thing keeping a “bad” marriage from being a “good” marriage is sustained mutual
being said, there are times that divorce is the best choice to allow both
partners to grow and achieve the life they desire, and in some scenarios, the
life they deserve.
some people, divorce is a profound life change in terms of security, and the
adjustment to it may lead to depression and severe anxiety. For others, it is a
relief from fear and inertia and a new life opportunity.
vice patrols are launched in Qom to further crack down on women on the pretext
of improper veiling.
Akhani, commander of the State Security Force in Qom Province, announced that
in cooperation with the Revolutionary Guard Corps (IRGC) of Qom, the new vice
patrols have been launched.
the role of the new vice patrols, the Akhani said on Sunday, January 27, 2019,
“The two stages of activities of units of the new vice patrols have been
successfully launched with the cooperation of the IRGC of Qom, the Executive
Staff of Promoting Virtue, and the State Security Force.”
said, “Everyone should know that Qom is not a place for such acts (i.e.
improper veiling) and all the moral standards must be observed in Qom. To deal
with the women who have out-of-norm appearance in observing the Hijab, which
would lead to social ailments, the traffic police is determined to deal
seriously with female drivers who do not observe the Islamic veil.” (The
state-run BORNA news agency – January 27, 2019)
the treatment of women by the new vice patrols in Qom, Akhani said, “The
vehicles of improperly veiled women are going to be impounded for a week and
transferred to the parking in cooperation with the Judiciary. Also, those
drivers who cause sonic pollution (i.e. play loud music in their cars) in the
city will be seriously dealt with. Their cars will be impounded and towed to
the parking and they will be fined.”
an interview with ISNA news agency, earlier in the year on May 23, 2018, the
General Prosecutor of Ardabil, Seyyed Nasser Atabati, had announced the
activities of new vice patrols in this northwestern Iranian city. He said the
vice patrols were obliged to give verbal warning and guide women and take
practical measures in educating them on the need to observe the veil, chastity
and the related issues.
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It seems that there is just a flicker
of light that would eventually illuminate the way at the end of the
dark tunnel of injustice that has engulfed it in the name of false
religion and its bigotry in Pakistan.
The Apex Court, her brave defenders and
the authorities deserve our thanks for establishing that Salman
Taseer's and Shabaz Bhatti's lives were not wasted.
Let us hope that the authorities will
ensure her handed over safely to one of the many kindly countries that have pledged to give her Safe Haven.
What remains to be seen is that all
those who caused the poor innocent Assia Bibi, a mother of few kids
to languish in jail for so long, are severely punished for their
crimes for tarnishing the name of the deen and shaming the
country which proclaims to operate under it.