By Saadia Khan
January 22, 2019
“We respect our mothers, our sisters and daughters,”
former First Lady Laura Bush said at the outset of the invasion of Afghanistan,
some 18 years ago. “Fighting brutality against women and children is not the
expression of a specific culture; it is the acceptance of our common humanity –
a commitment shared by people of goodwill on every continent. … The fight
against terrorism is also a fight for the rights and dignity of women.”
Her speech solidified the West’s rhetorical
commitment to rescuing Muslim women from oppression, rationalizing war through
the so-called greater goal of emancipating Muslim women.
As a feminist and a human rights activist,
I am all for women’s liberation. However, I believe that justifying war under
the pretence of women’s salvation is wrong. Research has shown that war disproportionately
harms women and children.
Western Media’s Portrayal
Western media often portray Muslim women as
oppressed and submissive. They judge the Muslim world on its worst examples of
the treatment of women, while the depiction of a female’s treatment in the West
is emblematic of an ideal society. This is not to defend some of the abhorrent
practices prevalent in the Muslim world, but to highlight that these societies,
like all others, have both good and bad traditions.
While incidents of violence and
discrimination against women are rampant in some parts of the Muslim world,
there are far greater examples of Muslim women leaders and change-makers who
have shown strength and courage. So far, there have been 13 Muslim female heads
of state, including Bangladesh’s Prime Minister Sheikh Hasina, Singapore’s
President Halima Yaqub, and Benazir Bhutto, former Prime Minister of Pakistan,
the country I grew up in.
Islam is Diverse
The notion that Muslim women somehow need
to be rescued implies the patronizing approach that they are inherently
incapable of saving themselves. First, Islam does not represent a monolithic
culture: it is a religion of 1.8 billion people and is practiced in more 50
countries, each with their own culture and traditions. The definition of a
Muslim woman is much more nuanced than the caricature created by western media.
Growing up during Benazir Bhutto’s era –
Pakistan’s prime minister between 1988 and 1990 and again from 1993 to 1996 – I
felt that women could achieve anything. At home and in the broader society, I
had very strong female role models. Women spoke their minds and made their own
financial and social decisions. They were doctors, engineers, pilots, and
teachers with a strong sense of identity and a strong voice at home and in
When I moved to the United States in the
early 2000s, I realized that people had a very different view of Muslim women.
I remember being at the hospital once and the nurse whispered into my ear,
asking where I was from. When I told her that I grew up in Pakistan, her
follow-up question was whether I was allowed to go to school and if I was
forced to wear a veil back home. I wondered if she would have asked me the same
questions if I were not from Pakistan. Probably not.
Defining Muslim Women
So, how do you define a Muslim woman? The
way I see it, Muslim women represent different convictions and points of view.
Some of us choose to wear hijabs, others are very comfortable in western
clothing. We are headstrong, passionate, educated, and often very opinionated.
We are also vulnerable and weak, but our vulnerability is not the result of our
affiliation with Islam. It is a function of the environment we grew up in,
which could be anywhere in the world.
We should remember that patriarchy and
misogyny exist in most societies and comes in many forms. The #MeToo movement
that originated in the United States is a testament to the fact that
mistreatment of women is prevalent all over the world.
I would go a step further and say that even
when we talk about persecuted Muslim women, we should present their stories in
the context of their strength and resolve. For example, Saudi teenager Rahaf
Mohammed al-Qunun (who escaped her family who she says abused her and
threatened to kill her) has shown the kind of resilience and courage that many
others in a similar situation may lack.
However, at the same time, her story as an
Arab Muslim woman does not represent my truth as a South Asian Muslim woman. It
is crucial that the West starts recognizing Muslim women as a diverse group,
each with their own individual narratives and truths.
You may ask, why the West’s understanding
of Muslim women matters, because for one, this approach of painting all Muslim
women with the same brush justifies Western governments’ actions that harm
Muslim women instead of helping them.
It also undermines efforts to build
bridges, especially for Muslims living in Western societies. Those of us living
in the West, who do not fit into the western idea of a Muslim woman, are marginalized.
We often find it difficult to carve our space in society. Our reality is seldom
celebrated. As a result, we are seen through the lens of the experiences of one
section of a diverse group.
It is important to understand that
sustainable change can only be achieved from within. Western governments must
reconcile with the notion that Muslim women are fully capable of enacting
positive change in their communities without outside help.
I am not in any way trying to trivialize
the pain of women who have suffered, but it is important that in addition to
those stories, the West promotes achievements of Muslim women across the world,
such as U.S. Congresswomen Rashida Tlaib and Ilhan Omar.
This is essential for a more realistic
depiction of Muslim women. These two Congresswomen have opened new doors for
other women of colour and minorities in the U.S. and around the globe, but most
importantly, they have redefined what it means to be a Muslim woman. It is high
time everyone else did it too.