Maulana Wahiduddin Khan for New Age Islam
married man once asked me the formula for harmonious marital relations. I
replied saying that there was just one, simple formula. The husband should
learn to adjust with his wife’s emotional nature and the wife should learn to
adjust with her husband’s stubborn nature. After this, if God wills, the couple
will enjoy harmonious relations for the rest of their lives.
man are not two opposed genders. Rather, they are each other’s counterparts. On
this basis, each of them has been blessed with certain additional qualities. If
women are generally more emotional, this is an added quality of theirs. It is
not something that lowers or reduces them. It is not a sign of any lack.
Likewise, if men are generally more stubborn, it is not their weakness but,
rather, an added quality. Both of these additional qualities are necessary in
life. Men and women should see these differences as part of God’s Creation
Plan. If they realise this, they will better acknowledge and appreciate each
other, instead of complaining and clashing.
with their emotional nature, most women are more soft. They are able to solve
problems using this softness that they have been blessed with. The good that
lies in men’s stubbornness is that where needed, they can deal with issues in a
stronger way. In this way, both women and men are able to play their respective
roles, through which the family and the wider society can function harmoniously.